An ex is an ex for good reason

As of late, my dating prospects have seemed to improve and thanks to myspace.com, I've met what appear to be some nice guys and I'm feeling confident to return to regular dating. With all that good stuff happening, I then get a message from my ex. He had joined myspace earlier this week and I guess he came across my profile and decided to drop me a message. His message mentioned that he "missed talking" to me and was "serious" about getting reacquainted with.

For those unfamiliar with my ex here's the story in a nutshell. He and I dated/ were in a relationship close to a year ago. He was 19 at the time and I was 26. Although he was so much younger, he seemed mature for his age, we had similar hobbies such as comic books, and he was do darn cute : ).

As the weeks passed, he started to show his true colors and I'd learn how cynical and negative his personality is. He never seemed to say anything nice about me or anything for that matter. He would constantly criticize my mannerisms, appearance, or personality. He was also very horny, which did have its advantages, but he didn't want to settle for just me and he felt the desire to mess around with others and he eventually proposed the idea of an open relationship. Eventually, I had enough of his nasty attitude, the way he'd talk down to me, and that open realtionship nonsense. Thinking he'd come to his senses, I tried to stick it out, but there was only so much I could take and I eventually broke up with him.

After breaking up there was some nasty mud slinging drama between he and I. Mostly because I refused to return the B-day present he had given me. For my B-day he gave me X-men # 94 from his personal comic book collection which is valued at close to $1,000. I kept it because I felt it was one of the only reminders of him once loving me and also I partially kept the comic book out of spite because of all the horrible things he said about me. He said such things as I'd "never find anyone to love me" and that I was too "womanly" and that I was "ugly" etc. He even posted some nasty remarks about me on his comic book website, such as "breking up with (JQHN) was the best birthday present he ever recieved".

Anyway, now back to the present........ I recieve the message and out of morbid curriousity I call him. In addition to that, I notice he has made some contacts with one of the guys I've been talking to on myspace.com, which makes things very awkward on my end. Anyway, after talking to my ex, it seems as if he's doing fine and has supposedly changed some of his promiscuos ways. When it came to our relationship, he felt as if we woulda made better friends and he didn't know how to be "just a friend" to anohter gay person. He aslo, admitted to saying "things he didn't mean", but he never appologized for anything.

All in all, I don't really know what to think about the situation, but whatever feelings I've had for him are gone and there's no way I can just take him back. I'm also skeptical if he has any alterior motives (Comic Book?). When it comes down to it, I'm at a point in my life where I want to move forward and I don't want to keep rehashing the past. If he truly has changed, then I'm happy for him and I may forgive him for what happened close to a year ago, but I have not forgotten.